
This is an emotional, moving but also informative and insightful book that can be described as part memoir, part motivational guide.
The opening focuses on Ilana’s story. Ilana grew up knewing that she was “different” and that she had an unspecified disability that was holding her back, due to lack of diagnosis and therefore, support. Ilana was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at the age of 46, and autism some time later.
The section titled “A Letter to my cerebal palsy” made me well up as she talks about her connection and frustration with her condition. It made my heart go out to anyone suffering with a long term condition like this one. From this point on, I felt a connection to the writer and felt I could identify with her on some level.
The book is very informative, explaining clearly what cerebral palsy and what the most common causes are. I was shocked and saddened to read and discover that the instances of babies born with cerebal palsy is only now starting to fall, despite almost 60 years of medical research and technological advancement.
The sections of the book that can be described as a ‘motivational guide’ focuses on handling mental and physical health issues. It covers many topics, but one that stood out was the discussion of the development and damage to our mental health throughout life, as we are sometimes impacted by our parenting and childhood.
The analysis of parenting seems to link quite closely with the ideology of one of my favourite non-fiction authors, Joanna Fortune. The writer focuses on the importance of meeting the emotional and physical needs of young children, in order to secure good physical and mental health for all the family.
The discussion of dealing with mental health and confidence issues took me back to a time when I reached out for some therapy myself, after a “rough patch”. The therapy course was called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and much of Ilana’s advice is based around this idea of acceptance, with no regrets, whilst committing to our goals to improve our mental health – whether that be learning to accept responsibility for our own choices, to reject responsibility of things that weaken our mental health, or making a commitment to improving the aspects of ourselves we don’t like, or getting more balance in our life (e.g. work/life balance, or self care).
I was a little sceptical about the spirituality section but found myself agreeing with Ilana on many points, and can definitely see why she chose to mention some aspects of Buddhism in her book.
I particularly loved the nspirational and thought provoking quotes scattered throughout the book – allowing you to take time out of the section to pause, think and reflect.
This has been an interesting and insightful read which I have devoured quickly. It is a testament to the writer’s character that she has overcome the challenges she has faced in order to write such an original and well researched book. I would recommend this book to fans of memoirs and motivational reads, as this has the best of both worlds!
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